According to the book, in chapter six, it explained the forms of nonlistening, it highlighted six forms people mostly engage, which are pseudo listening, monopolizing, selective listening, defensive listening, ambushing and literal listening. As I read through the six non listening forms, I understood when I usually engage in pseudo listening. I engaged more in pseudo listening; any time my girlfriend was talking to me about some important issue for me to relate with, I acted as if I was paying close attention to what she was saying and later on, when she asks me, hey, emua, do you remember what I was saying earlier on, I tried to play around as though I remembered then, but actually, my mind wasn’t there. It took me a while to recognize that I was engaging in pseudo listening. I learnt in a hard way, but I had to change. One thing she always tells me, “anytime I know my mind is on other stuff and she is discussing something important, I can always let her know, am not ready to listen at that moment”. It really helped me to change the way I listened, not only to her, but to everyone I engage in a conversation.
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