I have being in a relationship, where love was present, but
no commitment. This happened when I was in my final year in high school. I was
dating this girl since 9th grade, and everything was going on fine;
we had puppy love going on then. We talked about less important things, school
stuff and where we would like to go for college. In love, we both decided to school in the same
location. When it was about time to leave high school to transfer to college,
she then came and told me that she wanted to go to a different place to school
because her girlfriends were moving up there and she didn’t want to be left
behind. It happened, and we separated. That was love without commitment for me.
The other relationship had no love but there was commitment,
because we needed something from each other. We meet in college and I needed a
place to stay and she did too. We talked into getting a place together, and it
happened. We started hanging out more but we didn’t share common goal. So whenever
I did something contrary to her believe, she gets upset and bluff out her
feeling, even though I didn’t appreciate it, we still had to stay together
because of the commitment made.In either way, love without commitment or commitment without love; don’t seem to be a good ground for a healthy and lasting relationship. Both has to be present, because that what makes people live healthy, happy and fulfilled in life.
Interesting story! You make really great points and I think one without the other doesn't work also. In either case the ultimate goal was to achieve both but it often can’t happen because of life’s obstacles. Even though these situations are difficult there is always something learned from them. I had a similar experience to the first situation that you had with love but no commitment. After being with someone for two years you would assume that there would be commitment but that was what ended the relationship. It was the inability to make a decision to stay in the relationship or not. In my opinion that decision shouldn't be mad after two years, but that’s life. Hopefully everyone gets to experience a relationship with both.
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