Agape Love, God's Love

What I found interesting reading throughout the semester, was one of the concepts discussed in chapter 9, agape love, which is an unconditional love. Many a times, we tend to label love on the things we receive from people, especially in a relationship. Love itself, has to be sacrificial, it involves giving out one self not expecting the same measure back.  Agape love is the greatest among all other kind of love, but sad to say not everyone is walking in the reality of it. To have a fruitful, healthy and lasting relationship, both individuals must embrace agape love which is the love God has set for us as human beings to emulate. God is the founder of agape love, because He loved us so much that he gave everything to us, even His son Jesus Christ, what else he can’t give to us. That is love in action. When we love this way, the earth is going to be like heaven to live forever. this is a concept, in the book, i think i would like to discuss further on in life, because it brings about every solution in human relationship. if we embrace this kind of love, in our sick world, it will bring healing to every thing that has gone wrong.

fun class

My favorite things about this class, was being able to blog with different people taking this class and share their philosophy about what was in the book. The commentary I got on my blog as well made me feel good, that people also do appreciate what I had to say. One of the interesting things about this class was the textbook used. It is book, I would like to keep on my book shelve and make reference to at all times. This book brought a lot of insight to me about interpersonal communication. I thought communication was all about just talking about you and listening to the other, but the book made me understand that, it is ok to do just that, but there are other dimensions to communication. The only thing, I felt, I wasn’t satisfied with the class, was the fact that, there was no medium to check out the correction on the quizzes and exams. That I think should be a thing to improve on, in the future, but overall, the class was fun and insightful.

mindful listening, the key

One of the concepts I learnt in this book was mindful listening. Even though I thought I pay close attention to every conversation I engage in, the book explained it beyond my own understanding. Mindful listening is very important in all works of life, especially to maintain a healthy relationship. Men always fall short in this aspect, because they like to get straight to the issue, while women wants to tell about every detail in their conversation. I ran into a lot of problem, at work, with my family members and even my relationship, because I wasn’t a good mindful listener. There is a saying, that experience is the best teacher, and knowledge is never enough. As I read through this concept in the book, I had to evaluate myself and did a check and balance on aspect I need to be take into consideration when engaging in a conversation.

Launching Children

Launching children is the time of vital change for most parents. This is the stage when children leave for college, or those who are of age deciding to move out own their own. It is very difficult for parents at this stage to accept the fact that their children are matured enough to face life on their own. This is mostly on the mothers, because they get more involved in a child’s life from his childhood stage still when he is grown up. For fathers, they care for their own children, but would not restrain them from taking up responsibility for themselves.  According to the book, this is the time when young adult increase independence and self discovery. In chapter one, one of the needs of human’s according to Maslow theory, was self actualization, that is to say, everyone gets to a stage in life, when he questions himself or herself, “why or what is my purpose in life”, and at this launching out stage, young adults, want to figure that out soon.

50years from now_q2

The concept of marriage is changing rapidly and the idea of a man getting married to a woman is being under rated. People in this age and culture see marriage as two individuals living together based on some mutual agreement. The idea of lasting marriage is no more in vogue, meaning people can decide to opt out of any relationship, not considering the commitment and vows binding the union. I will predict a higher rate of divorce in the next 50 years.We recognize that these failures have been unanticipated and unintended. The divorce revolution set out to achieve some worthy social goals; to foster greater equality between men and women; to improve the family lives of women, and to expand individual happiness and choice. We recognize the enduring importance of these social goals.

Yet the divorce revolution has not brought us closer to these goals but has cast us at greater distance from them. Relationships between men and women are not getting better; by many measures, they are getting worse. They are becoming more difficult, fragile, and unhappy. Too many women are experiencing chronic economic insecurity. Too many men are isolated and estranged from their children. Too many people are lonely and unconnected. Too many children are angry, sad, and neglected.

family_q1

My definition of family is a union between a man and a woman, who decides to live together for better or worse, till death does separate them. Primarily, a family starts when a man marries a woman into his life and them both bear kids of their own. The responsibility in having a family comes with diverse notion birth from different cultures, and people practice, what the society calls norm, in raising their own family. The importance of family cannot be over looked, because a healthy society arises from a stable and functional family unit. There is a proverb which says”charity begins at home”. The idea of family is a unit of people who care, love and cater for each other. Always there to celebrate success and most time support each other through some difficult time. From the book, it talked about family who own their feelings and not blaming others for their problem.

Agape Love; God's kind of Love

What I found interesting in this chapter, is agape love, which is an unconditional love. Many a times, we tend to label love on the things we receive from people, especially in a relationship. Love itself, has to be sacrificial, it involves giving out one self not expecting the same measure back.  Agape love is the greatest amongst all other kind of love, but sad to say not everyone is walking in the reality of it. To have a fruitful, healthy and lasting relationship, both individuals must embrace agape love which is the love God has set for us as human beings to emulate. God is the founder of agape love, because He loved us so much that he gave everything to us, even His son Jesus Christ, what else he can’t give to us. That is love in action. When we love this way, the earth is going to be like heaven to live forever.